From the Heart
By: Kelly Karius Mar 16th, 2010Category: Contributor Posts
It’s hard to speak from the heart sometimes. But that is often exactly what needs to be done in order to have healthy growth in our relationships. To really put your innermost thoughts into words takes a bravery that can be developed…with practice. The practice path:
- Understand that your thoughts are not dysfunctional. Our thoughts develop in conjunction with our experiences. Experience…thoughts…more experience…reinforcement of thoughts and belief…that’s how it works. Your thoughts are exactly in line with the experiences you have had in your life.
- Attach feelings to thoughts. Our thoughts are not far separated from our feelings, but often times we are unsure of what it is we even feel. If you need some ideas and inspiration about feelings, keep a list of feelings handy. A very quick google search will bring you to something like this > Feelings.
- Speak from the heart to YOURSELF about yourself.
- Understand your hopes and dreams about the situation. Understanding what you want to happen in a relationship, job or project will help you be able to express it more clearly.
- Use a neutral sounding board before approaching someone about a heart to heart talk in order to be sure your thoughts, intentions and understandings are clear.
- Examine the worst case scenario. Remember that no one will ever eat you for expressing your innermost self.
Regards,
Kelly Karius
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From the Heart – http://blog.darrensproat.com/2010/03/16/... | Contributed by @KellyKarius, Using @twitoaster
From the Heart – http://blog.darrensproat.com/2010/03/16/... | Contributed by @KellyKarius, Using @twitoaster
Kelly,
Once again, you share your insight and experience with the readers of Keeping it Real. I truly appreciate your contribution.
Regards,
Darren Sproat
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TwitterID: kellykarius
Thanks so much for the opportunity Darren!
Kelly,
You’re very welcome.
Darren
Kelly,
You are so right about how hard it is to speak from the heart – even to ourselves! It sure helps to know that our thoughts are not bad or dysfunctional. They form from our life experiences. Awareness is key to making our thoughts more positive. Thanks for the great insight!
Renee Ludwigs
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Renee,
I appreciate you stopping by and contributing with a comment. Now, with a title like “Imagine How It Would Feel To Make Your Dreams a Reality” I have to step out to read you latest.
Darren
TwitterID: kellykarius
Always so good to read your comments Renee! Speaking from the heart! I am so glad that I’ve met you!
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TwitterID: CherylSproat
Kelly,
What an appropriate post for Darren’s blog. If there’s one thing Darren has done, for the most part, as long as I’ve known him, it’s speak and act from the heart.
Good practice makes perfect, right?
Thanks,
Cheryl
TwitterID: pinwheelgirl
I love this post because it is only when we speak from our heart that we can truly evolve, grow, transform and help others do so as well. When we speak from the heart, in my experience, the messages we want to impart are more likely to be received, because people feel the passion, care, and sometimes emotional trembling behind our words that then move their own spirit to action. I find that when I am authentically communicating I receive better listening, more openness, and increased compassion. We often hesitate to speak from the heart because we fear rejection and criticism or that our needs will not be met. We want the other person to agree with us and validate our perspective. There is fear that maybe they will not so we keep our authenticity to ourselves. Nevertheless, Iit is important to express ourselves anyway with as much kindness and dignified clarity as possible. Only when we can speak our deepest truths from the deepest recesses of our heart can the human condition thrive. Thank you for posting these great reminders about living and speaking from the heart!
TwitterID: kellykarius
You are so right Kendra! I think we learn to “protect” our hearts and minds by not expressing ourselves. We anticipate negative reactions, so we just keep things to ourselves. At risk of losing who we even are!
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TwitterID: LindaLongWrites
Kelly,
People have be so conditioned to hold back, bite their tongue and only say nice things that they often forget to speak from their heart. They conform and fall in line. I learned recently by holding back in that way you give yourself away a little bit at a time. But, I will say, it’s a balancing act. One must learn to speak their truth from their heart without breaking another’s or disrespecting another’s feelings.
All the best,
Linda
TwitterID: kellykarius
I agree Linda, and I appreciate your comment. I would say that I initial learned conforming in some of my relationships as a bad habit that I really had to give up. It is very possible to speak one’s own truth without being disrespectful if all points of view are valued!
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TwitterID: joannefunch
Kelly,
such basic advice but we do need to be reminded to connect to our heart and get out of our head more often, the heart never steers us wrong if we listen. Thanks for the article, like it!
TwitterID: kellykarius
Thanks so much for reading and commenting JoAnne! I hope you are having a fantastic weekend!