I think I am a friendly person. And I have always surrounded myself with good people. Good friends. But I have hit a really awkward stage in my life. Maybe it’s normal? Maybe it’s just the age that I’m at? But I’m not sure I like this!
Back when we were in our twenties, things were different. We were trying to figure out exactly who we were. We were just starting out in our careers, and in our relationships: boyfriends or husbands. At that stage in our lives, we used to go out every weekend and hang out with each other. Not necessarily just hanging out at the local watering hole (although we did do a lot of that as my husband ran a bar! haha), but all kinds of things. Shopping at the mall. Going on Float trips. Going to any assortment of parties: candles, jewelry, make-up. But lately, it seems that the outings with friends are getting fewer and farther in-between.
Over the last couple of years, most friend outings seem to revolve around one of our birthdays… no every weekend outings. Mostly just a jewelry party here or there … and a birthday celebration … but other than that, we really don’t see each other very much.
I realize we are all well into our thirties now, are in serious relationships or are married, and have kids – and THAT dynamic makes it much more difficult to get together with friends. But now we’re to the point where we’re not even necessarily getting together for each other’s birthdays, which really saddens me. I love my friends. I love spending time with them. And quite frankly, I really miss them. Hopefully this is just a “stage” in our lives, and that in a few years we’ll all have more time to devote to our friendships, but for now I feel like there’s a huge void in my life without them.
So, I guess until we reach that point, I’ll cherish the moments that we do get spend with one another, and look forward to that future stage in our lives when time together is more frequent.
Lisa, @4LeafCloverGirl on Twitter