Most of us have heard the phrase “Hitting Rock Bottom”. Many of us, in fact, have reached that point in our lifetimes. Many of us have hit a low and clawed our way back to the top of our game. Drug and alcohol rehabilitation most frequently utilizes this phrase. In order to overcome our problems, we must conquer blame, excuse and denial. However, before we can recognize that we have a problem, it may be crucial to acknowledge that we have hit rock bottom. We may even have to provide ourselves permission to get to that point in order to help ourselves.
I have hit rock bottom several times throughout my lifetime, and I am sure many of you have too. Those times when sorrow seems to overpower, or self-pity has you in its clutches. Those times when we feel the most helpless to benefit those we love, or ourselves. Those periods when we sense that trying to rectify our circumstances is pointless, and we lose all hope. You understand the feeling. We all have moments when we have that devastating desire to throw in the towel and give up. That feeling that being happy is impossible, and accepting that life is too difficult seems like the solution.
I read a book last year that sprinkled some light on the subject of hitting rock bottom. I cannot remember which publication it was, but if I find it, I will amend this. As I studied the material, a light came on for me. The times that I had come close to a breakthrough in my development, I shut down or backed away. My emotions were powerful and I definitely was unwilling to look for the underlying issue. The stirring pain seemed, tormenting, and I refused to go there; I refused to allow the pain to surface.
What is at the Bottom?
Okay so in the book this author presents this idea. We go through life pushing our emotions down and suppressing them until we feel better. Each time a feeling like anger, insecurity, sadness, fear, guilt, etc. causes us anxiety, we set out to move away from it. We move away looking desperately for some peace and look for the joy that surely must exist. We claw our way back to the top of our game in hopes of feeling something more agreeable. However, the writer explains that by climbing out of the rut we have gotten ourselves into, joy eludes us.
So what is at the bottom through all this suppressing and avoiding? According to this particular author, it is innate joy. He explains that as we journey through life, we experience the sorrow. We press it down, over the top of the joy in our hearts; we dampen our ability to experience happiness. Underneath all our pain remains, the source of pleasure we are seeking. Furthermore, each time we turn away from the heartache we turn from joy. His solution is to accept the rock bottom and dig our way through it, discovering the buried treasures of the heart.
Working Through vs. Working Out
There is a reason that the Gurus advocate that we work THROUGH our issues. Working through suggests that we locate the underlying cause of the issue, rather than attempting to sidestep the feelings. After we dig through to the joy, we can notice when we are trying to suppress more feelings and stop doing that. We can work through issues as they appear, so that our joy is always available to us. In other words, after we encounter the hidden treasure immersed beneath the rubble, we can maintain that joy. We can identify when we are endeavoring to move away from difficulties as they arise. We can ask for help from loved ones that will help us face our troubles. If we will do this, we will not bury them, and allow them to resurface later.
I hope this theory will help you recognize that we need to work through our troubles rather than working them out. We cannot work around what inconveniences us, suppressing unwanted feelings, and hope to stay on top. We cannot succeed if we are in a perpetual movement away from issues that come up. We must work through to the joy that is in our heart and spirit.
Entreat help or seek a professional that can assist you in working through your concerns. Self-help does suggest that you must do the work yourself, but you are not alone. There are many individuals in the universe to help you help yourself. Rock bottom is actually just a flimsy layer of delusion that feels as if you have to use a jackhammer to get through. If you will open up to another, the joy in life will come to the surface.
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Sandra Hendricks, @thisshouldhelp2 on Twitter