How To Be Committed When It’s Only Temporary
Sometimes it is challenging to be focused and truly committed to someone or something that you know is only temporary. Often you do not know it’s temporary, whether it’s a personal/professional relationship, a situation or circumstance. But many things in life can be temporary.
Things (and sometimes people!) always seems to change, and sometimes when you least expect it. I used to have a mindset that if I did not have 100% assurance that something or someone in my life was permanent I did not have to be fully committed.
I would be present, make an effort and do my best, but was holding back because of the lack of permanency. The problem was that it was not me at my best, it was me half-heartedly doing something or being me. When I was fully committed and putting forth all my energy, effort, time and more it felt great.
Until something ended. Then I often felt betrayed, foolish for giving so much and angered that somehow I could not hold onto something or someone when I had done so much to be focused and committed. I did not realize the return on my investment was not permanency, but every moment of good before the end.
While I subscribe to the school of thought that it is not a good thing for us to walk around with expectations (of others, of circumstances and so on), I think having expectations of ourselves and the hopes and dreams we can make happen are important. When I realized that my personal expectations were connected to my level of commitment, I had an a-ha moment.
I’ve discovered that whatever I feel I want and need in my life is up to me to create, manifest and pursue. I need to do the work and put forth the effort. It no longer matters what or who may be temporary, as long as I know in my heart, mind and soul what I am committed to and know that it is every bit worth it, despite how long it may last.
Life is only temporary. Shouldn’t we give it our best shot with 100% of commitment and effort? – Angela Schaefers